I've been seeing this guy for a while, like since the end of winter (I know, it's probably some kind of record and yes, it does freak me out), and to my shock and dismay, he's becoming a really good friend and someone I enjoy having around. I enjoy having him around so much that I invite him to sleep over and I like it.
I've even introduced this new Friend of mine to some of my friends and met a few of his. This whole dating as an adult thing is so new and foreign and interesting and glorious to me. Imagine- being friends with someone before coming to the conclusion that you like them enough to commit to them. Who knew that it was possible? Certainly not 21 year old me who committed to a guy she met online within a week of meeting him. Definitely, 100% not 18 year old me who was convinced she would marry the 23 year old Baptist virgin co-worker she fell in "love" with and corrupted.
Saturday night I went to a get-together for my new Friend's friend's birthday. Here's the best part: The party was for Friend's ex-girlfriend. Yes! I know, it's kind of awesome.
It does flatter me that he would introduce me to his ex, who is now simply a good friend to him. I've told a couple of my friends about my weekend and their first reaction was, of course, "Ok, that's weird. Is he using you to make her jealous?" and no. It's definitely not like that. People, stop trying to make drama and create doubt where the should be none.
So ex-girlfriend (who is also a redhead), is asking Friend about his parents, how they're doing. She turns to me and asks me if I've met his parents yet. I couldn't help it, my reaction was to laugh sort of hysterically. No, no I have absolutely not met his parents yet. But it got me thinking, how do adults go about deciding when the time is right to introduce new friends to their parents and isn't it fucking awkward? Because I feel like it's going to be awkward when I do decide to take someone to meet my amazing (read crazy) family. Do I wait until I have decided I, like, love someone to introduce them? Do I bring this person who I've already decided I care about home to my parents' house? But then what if I already care about this person and know that I want them in my life but my family hates him?
Or, should I introduce them right away, before I even know how I feel about them so I can get an opinion from my family, since they're usually right? Do we go to dinner? Lunch? Why the fuck am I thinking about this so much? Now that it's been brought up, it's giving me slight anxiety to think about. Maybe I should just add "parents deceased" to my list of requirements for men I date seriously?
Friend's parents aren't deceased and I'm not sure I'm willing to cut him off of my potential boyfriends list any time soon. So maybe, if it gets to the point that I'm introduced to his family and it doesn't go well, I'll start my search for the perfect guy- with dead family- after that.
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